My initial post for today was "Boys are mean and girls too" (maybe later I'll post it) but somehow, I wanted to share some advices on how to stop a fight between two persons (when you are one of the two persons).
We'll take the situation where the fight is already turned on. The guy and girl are arguing and arguing and ... arguing not allowing to calm down.
In this particular case, what I'll do in your case, I'll stop arguing and try to calm down. IT-IS-NOT-EASY. It is really not easy but I'll try. And I'll say something that is very very very difficult to say, I'll say "sorry". Oh yes ladies and gentleman, that's what you must say in this case. Saying sorry is not admitting you're wrong or whatever but only admitting that fighting back was not the way you should have behave (in the case you started the fight, saying you're sorry is a way to say that you shouldn't have started the fight).
Then try to see the problem on two aspect; your's and hers. Perhaps you're wrong but didn't realise it because you are too stubborn to admit it or if she is is wrong, talking calmly will give you more power to try to make her understand what went wrong. In every case, talking calmly is better than crying out loud.

This is two easy steps on how to calm down a fight between you and another persons (mainly your girlfriend, fiancée or wife). I normally try to calm down things using these two steps. It don't work every time but when it works, just believe me, there's nothing better than this.

So friend, two easy steps and one cheerio...

Baby: Doesn't like thunderstorms. Also, talks with a mouth full of saliva and sounds like Baby Chewbacca.

Peach trees: May be growing in my back yard.

Now, these violent tendencies are fleeting and are usually quelled by singing loudly with the radio in my car or by indulging in a bitch session with the two people I work with that get as frustrated as I do.  But, my little day-dream makes me wonder what it would be like to actually punch someone.  I've never been in a real physical altercation and I wonder how I would react.  In my above scenario, I get the first punch and the element of surprise gives me the upper hand.  In a real-world altercation, it is just as likely that I would be the one left bleeding.  Either situation would be both frightening and more than a little exciting.  Now, I'm not Tyler Durden and I'm not looking to start a Fight Club, but it is interesting to think about. 

Would you ever throw the first punch?  Would you return a punch thrown at you without hesitation?  If you were the one left standing, would you feel victorious or ashamed? 

You may believe that you would be too rational or controlled or even too afraid to involve yourself in a physical fight.  Or, you may think you would jump right in, fists flying.  Of course, it's impossible to predict exactly what you would do until you are actually standing there in the moment.  When pushed too far, you may be surprised with your actions.

Fistacuffs broke out last night at the Shock/Sparks WNBA game. Bill Lambeer's Detroit Shock got tangled up with Candice Parker and the L.A. Sparks. Wow, this will be great for the leagues P.R. This may be the best thing to happen to the league in years, if not ever. The league is stale and boring, and personally we'd tune into the WNBA is they showed a little more fire and fights broke out more often.

What makes this even more amazing, is that Rick Mahorn, a coach of the Shock, shoved (or gently pushed) Lisa Leslie from the L.A. Sparks to the floor at The Palace in Auburn Hills. Yes, this is the same Rick Mahorn, who as a broadcaster jumped up into the stands to keep Ron Artest from jacking up fans in the Pacers/Pistons brawl.

From Mahorn:

I was trying to protect the whole game, the integrity of the game," Mahorn told the media after the game. "I would never push a woman. This game, I love this game too much."Lisa Leslie, Candice Park and the L.A. Sparks lost the fight, but Rick Mahorn may have lost the battle.

To quote the old Warner Wolf line: Let's go to the video tape:

The WNBA is a tax write off for the NBA. That's why it still exists.

As it's own independent thing it is a commercial failure, let's make no quams about this, but that's okay. The WNBA hasn't attracted male viewership because the quality is not as good as the NBA. It's that simple. It's the reason foreign soccer viewership is up, but not MLS. People want to see the best soccer just like they want to see the best basketball. There's only so  much sports to watch and people watch women's tennis because it is actually an excellent product. Everyone says that Candace Parker's consecutive dunks are transforming the game. They're not. A step in the right direction? You bet.

The sport simply needs more physicality so it can look like modern basketball. It'll happen with due time. Women are getting taller and stronger. It's just a matter of time before they can throw it down over someone consistently. This isn't sexist. Not in the slightest. It's just a matter of sports nuance. Are WNBA players great shooters? You bet. They have incredible fundamentals and I'd be happy to show kids tape on how to create ball movement for set shots. But sit down and watch a game? It just doesn't measure up to the physicality.

Which is exactly why the sports biggest new star getting into a throwdown last night is so important. Because it is awesome. Brawls are exciting. I don't care what anyone says, brawls exhibit passion, pride, and physicality. The very thing that viewers like to see. The story has ALREADY gotten way more hits and interest than any other story in the WBNA and it happened last night. And it's not all retarded catfight jokes. It's much more legitimate than that.

Said throwdown:

And thats kinda like my life

I've played the role of the nice girl next door

Who gets cut like a knife

Now I'm not looking for apology eyes

And I don't want to spend tonight on a bed of beautiful lies.."

I don't know if I've made this obvious from my posts, or if this will come as a shock to any of you but sometimes I can get pretty angry. To the point where I want the world to burn. I want to tear strips of skin from my enemies faces and scream their ears into deafness. I want to curse against their names so darkly that their grandchildren are still feeling the karma of my wrath. I almost wish pain onto their kittens, but not quite. I'm not a monster, yet.

I can take a lot of digs. I can hold my head high and give an amused smirk to most people's attempts at pissing me off. And usually I get more out of acting like I regard them as low as a junkie whore Liberal voter and not letting myself be trolled, then biting back, no matter how hard I know I coulda just ripped them to shreds with one line.

"You watch and you wait for your 15 minutes of my day

It makes you feel good if you think that you've got into me

Funny cause I don't wish nothing bad on you

Constant drama's all you want to put me through

I've made my decision and I'm firm on it

So I don't know why you're even trying.."

Thats why I get so angry that I explode into a tiny ball of screaming rage and crazy eyes, fists clenched and neck strained. Because I know they've gotten away with that shit for too long so now they think they can disrespect me. Me! The Queen Of The Known Universe! The Goddamn Luli! Its that ego taking hold of me. They dare defy ME? Theres only so much I can take, only so far I can be pushed.

And I know I could take them to that low place. I could make them shit themselves for a minute thinking I'm a bit unscrewed. I know I could use my powers of anger and make them hurt with words that will sting, that they will remember. I know the way to make someone insecure is to pick apart why they do what they do and bare their intentions to the world. And sometimes I want to do that so bad, you don't understand, if the thought crossed my mind while in one of my rages I would instantly say the words no matter how harsh.

I've mentioned a few times that my main group of friends are guys that I've known since high school. One by one they've gotten girlfriends and had ex-girlfriends and more than a few of them have taken an instant disliking to me for being such a close friend to their man. Its an unfounded jealousy, but I understand it and I take it with a grain of salt. I would probably also find myself feeling irrational jealousy if a man I dated was always having beers with his boys and one random chick. So I take that coldness and turn it into something nicer, I make the girls who hated me be my friend and hang out with me and let them see who I am, so they know why the guys are mates with me. This is a lot more effort than you think, girls are hard to crack, but ultimately it turns a bitchy situation into something easy and friendly. Its better for everyone. The group gets bigger.

"I know you can come better,

Can come better than that

So you can kill all that loose rap

How many times I tell you "Don't come to me,"?

You bring me all of that jealousy

Cause you got envy, don't hate me baby

Talk smack behind my back

And then when you see me

You try to come up and talk to me, don't talk to me

I'm not saying nothing, nothing.."

But then you get a couple of extremely insecure girlfriends and it all turns to shit. They conspire against you, they gossip to the other girls, they poison each other with their bullshit. God wouldn't it shit you, you had 5 out of 6 girlfriends on your side and now you have 2 from 6, just because they'd prefer to hate you and get you out of the circle, rather than leave you in it as you had happily been before they'd even considered dating your friends.

Only one of them has enough guts to say anything bitchy, she puts in enough digs for the rest of them. The others are too shit scared to open their mouths and say what they're thinking, even when I know they're gossiping with their nasty bullshit the moment my back is turned. The one with the balls only has them because she's with my best friend Dimi and she knows I don't want to piss him off by being mean to her. Sometimes I don't care and I sting her back just as hard, but I know I can never go too deep with it. Most of the time we ignore each others presence, I basically feel like I owe her nothing, not even the common courtesy of a greeting. I feel validated in that because I've heard the things she's said about me through my loyal grapevine of guy mates. And yet sometimes we are genuinely nice and caring to each other, I've hugged her while she's cried after fights with Dimi and I've even given her advice, taken her shopping, helped her plan special things for him. Am I stupid?

I'm torn between being the better person, taking their hate and dissolving it with good intentions and nice words. I would look the victim if I turned a blind eye and that would suit me better, it would make everyone to see who is to blame, who aggravates the situation. I could do what would make me feel like a good person and keep trying to be the friend of someone who hates me.

"Listen daddy I'm too cute to fight

You better get that bitch told tonight

And I don't ever, I mean ever

Never ever wanna deal with this again

You better tell her

Tell her, tell her, tell her.."

But what I want to do, what I'm tempted to do, what the old me would do, is kill her soul with words of pain. She's stupid, ignorant, weak, vindictive, demanding, selfish, thoughtless, boring.. Ooh I could burn her so sweet, it would be such an entertaining show. Because she deserves it, she started it all, she made people turn against me for no reason. Weak, scared, little girls who only dare to whisper words about me when I'm not in the same area code. Who suck up my ass when I don't say hello to them. Man, how I would love to crush them.

Because fuck them man, I opened my arms to them, I accepted them as a friend before they'd even made up their mind whether they liked me or not. I moved over in the circle and let them sit beside me, when I could have been a brat about it all too. I could have rejected them and caused their men to doubt them. Thats why, you see. Thats why I want to kill, kill, kill! I've taken it all quietly and its like they're getting away with it. I want to declare war on every single one of them, scream them into puddles of tears.

Its this feeling that lets me know the next month or so will be hard for me. Its going to be a struggle for me to deal with them without biting when I have this little storm beneath the surface. But I'm determined to be strong, I don't want to let anyone else's negativity affect how I feel about me. I was a happy face a few days ago, before I'd run into them. I need to breathe and let it go. Fuck, thats so easy to say and so hard to do!!

"I'm feelin faith

And no you can't take that from me

I'll direct all your energies into yourself

Turn it to positivity

You're trying, but it's all right

There is no way I'll let you take what I have found within

You're trying so hard to get under my skin

This is a battle that you won't win

You're trying, but it's all right

There is no way I'll ever be unhappy again

You're trying so hard to get under my skin

You're trying, but it's all right.."

Well, this is one way we can draw fans and attention. (Not so sure if it's the type of attention we want, though)

THE ISSUE: Sagging pants are a fashion trend in the hip-hop world and have been around for quite some time.

THE PROBLEM: Some powers that be see this trend as indecency and a threat to the world as they know it.

THE HISTORY: Historically, it is thought that sagging pants began as a reflection of prison culture. Belts were confiscated upon entry into the home-away-from-home and men were left with sagging dungarees. Gang members began to emulate this style in protest or possibly in homage to their incarcerated brothers (who knows) or maybe they were just too lazy to pull them up. Whatever the case may be, this fashion statement caught on and has been around since the early 90's according to Wikipedia.

THE CONTROVERSY: The trend, started by African-Americans, is said to be yet another case of "racial profiling." The American Civil Liberties Union has spoken out against the practice of targeting these individuals b/c it will most likely target young Black males.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO YOU?
Absolutely nothing if you don't care, don't have children interested in music. Young people of all races, especially those that embrace the hip-hop culture OR rap, also seem to embrace this hip-hop fashion statement. In fact, the fashion trend is as rampant and growing as the hip-hop community. Yes, the trend may have started out as a "Black Thing" but let's just say it's no longer isolated to one group or another. This means that your children may be committing a criminal act before they leave the house!

THE IRONY: Law makers may have to arrest their own teens or young adults.

MY THOUGHTS ON THE MATTER: My first thought when I read the article in Newsweek Magazine was that this was a joke. Then I read further... It's not that I AGREE with this fashion faux pas, but I don't disagree either. Not only is this a slippery slope but, who cares? Aren't there bigger fish to fry? If you don't like it don't look!! If it offends you as a storeowner post a sign similar to the "NO SHOES, NO SHIRT, NO SERVICE" and call it a day. Making this a CRIMINAL offense is not only targeting a group of children it is also teaches them that we are hypocritical. Have you seen the red carpet lately? The front of a multitude of magazines? SKIN is in!!! Why are these more acceptable images: [gallery]

If kids see this as a threat to their sense of "personal style" be careful and beware!! Our kids are much smarter and more resourceful than ever. This is a technology age and they might just get the idea to ban together! What will you do if they all decide to wear their clothes that way? Will you arrest them all? Close down schools?

Don't get mad at me I'm just tellin' it like it T-I-Tiz!!!

Now I'll be honest, and I'm sure this won't come as a shock to anyone. I'm not a fan of the WNBA. It's not that the women who play in the league aren't talented, as they could play most men under the table (including many of the scrubs in the NBA). Candace Parker is especially one of those players, as the talent she brings to the table has gotten jaded haters like me to even take notice. She can dunk, she can shoot, and she could easily start in the NBA. It's also these skills that make her a target for dirty play, and it's a shame, but it's something Parker will have to get used to as her career goes on. It's a shame that the first big story in the WNBA had to be a fight, but you know what they say, "bad press is better than no press". Of course by they, I mean the Communists.

Oh and that chick who got pushed totally flopped. Either way, the dude who pushed her will be crucified.

Extended footage:

Voilà ce que j'écrivais sur cette discipline au mois de Mars de l'année 2008 :

"Voici une discipline aux airs très alléchants ! Et pour cause, en tirant des arts-martiaux et du FreeFight le meilleur pour la Self-Defense, le créateur de ce style a voulu une méthode de combat adaptée un maximum à la défense personnel. "

Et s'en suivait un descriptif philosophique de ladite discipline...

4 mois se sont écoulés depuis cet article, 4 mois durant lesquels j'ai pu pratiquer moi-même, à côté du Free Fight, le Jeet Kune Do Unlimited. Et pour tout vous dire, je n'en suis encore revenu - et il n'y a finalement que peu de chance que j'en revienne un jour (à moins de trouver mieux, qui sait ? ;-)). " MMA for the street ", l'autre nom du JKD Unlimited ; comme vous l'aurez compris, ce style ne fait pas dans la dentelle... Vous, les pratiquants de Free Fight, d'un sport de contact quelconque,  d'arts-martiaux classique, ou de self-défense, si vous êtes soucieux de votre aptitude à vous protéger et à vous assurer un maximum de protection, laissez-vous tenter par le JKD Unlimited, une discipline où l'adversaire vous résiste réellement... Au début, c'est selon votre niveau, - mais vous verrez que même à ce stade là, tout n'est pas si facile qu'il n'y paraît.

Une fois de plus, je me permet de restranscrire ici un texte sur la philosophie du JKD Unlimited qu'il est possible de trouver sur le site officiel suisse.

" Aujourd'hui nous vivons dans une société ou l'effondrement des valeurs morales, le non-respect des autorités ainsi que la marginalisation de certaines tranches de la population ont amenés la création de phénomènes de "banlieue", d'où une explosion de la violence à laquelle nous sommes confrontés chaque jour.

Le besoin de se défendre contre cette nouvelle forme de violence devient donc nécessaire.

Il existe a l'heure actuelle 3 générations de systèmes de combat :

1. Les Arts Martiaux traditionnels

2. Les Sports de Contact

3. Les Sports de 3ème Génération

Les deux premières générations de systèmes de combat ne répondent pas au besoins actuels en matière de défense, car ces techniques ne sont pas adaptées face aux agresseurs d'aujourd'hui.

Pourquoi la troisième génération de systèmes de combat, dont fait parti le Jeet Kune Do Unlimited, est-elle adaptée de nos jours ?

C''est une histoire de technique mais surtout de méthode d'entraînement.

Lors de ses entraînements, l'élève apprend à placer des techniques contre une personne qui lui résiste réellement, il se retrouve donc en situation réelle de combat. Toutefois, bien que l'entrainement soit réel, nous utilisons le concept de " résistance progressive ", ce qui veut dire que le programme est accessible à toutes et à tous, athlètes ou non, et que l'intensité du combat est modifié selon l'expérience de chaque élève et selon leurs objectifs.  Ajoutons que ce n'est pas seulement une méthode de combat, mais c'est aussi une façon d'améliorer toutes les autres facettes de notre vie.

En complément, deux vidéos nous montrant à quoi peut ressembler un test d'instructeur donné par Burton Richardson qu'on peut retrouver soit sur youtube, ou à nouveau sur le site du JKD Unlimited Suisse :

Première partie

Deuxième partie

" Je crois que Bruce Le suivrait la même philosophie que de son vivant. Selon moi, sa philosophie était la clef de son succès. Il avait une idée claire et précise sur la façon de pratiquer les arts martiaux. Il ne croyait pas qu'un art martial doive être statique et inerte. Au contraire, selon lui l'art martial devait être une "entité" vivante et constamment changeante. Certains, pensant être en accord avec la philosophie de Bruce Lee, rajoutent des techniques a leur arsenal un peu au hasard, favorisant des techniques flashantes et compliquées. Alors que pour Bruce Lee, le seul guide était d'utiliser ce qui est efficace lors d'un vrai combat!

C'est pour cela que je suis persuadé que Bruce Lee aurait sans doute fait exactement ce que nous faisons au  Jeet Kune Do Unlimited. Nous essayons tout simplement d'améliorer notre technique de combat de rue dans un cas de self-défense. C'est ce que Bruce Lee a commencé et nous suivons son exemple. Bruce Lee aurait sans doute fait usage de sa fortune pour engager les meilleurs combattants au monde et s'entrainer avec eux. Il aurait étudier l'art du Jiu-Jitsu Brésilien, pas pour le sport, mais pour améliorer ses chances de survie au sol. Il aurait rajouté des techniques et méthodes d'entrainement au corps a corps (clinch) provenant de la lutte Gréco-romaine. Il aurait incorporé certaines techniques de Free Fight, mais avec certaines modifications pour qu'elles soient plus efficaces pour la rue: ajoutant yeux, gorge et parties comme cibles. Il aurait pratiqué la lutte au sol pour pouvoir se remettre debout plus facilement ou pour pouvoir finir un adversaire au sol si l'opportunité se présentait. Il aurait fait une exploration encore plus profonde de l'aspect émotionnel du combat. Et bien sur, il aurait continuer à tout tester en situation quasi-réelles: sparring, résistance, etc. Je pense qu'il aurait aussi approfondi sa connaissance des armes à feu, surtout s'il était resté à Los Angeles!

En conclusion, je crois que Bruce Lee aurait continue son incroyable évolution dans les arts martiaux, grâce a ses recherches et grâce au développement de nouvelles idées. Aujourd'hui encore, il aurait été un avant gardiste dans le monde des arts martiaux, surtout pour les techniques et méthodes d'entrainement de self défense en combat de rue."

Traduit de l'Anglais par Sarah Badat-Richardson

It goes like this: At the Summercase Festival in Barcelona, Kele Okereke went over to spoke to his childhood idol, John Lydon, formerly Johnny Rotten. It was then that members of Lydon's entourage are to have shouted racist abuse at Okereke, including something along the lines of: "Your problem is your black attitude".

Three of the entourage are alleged to have then pounced on Okereke, punching and kicking him before Ricky Wilson (of Kaiser Chiefs) and Yannis Philippakis (of Foals) stepped in to mediate, and then they were attacked. The "unprovoked" attack has left Okereke with facial bruising and cuts to his face and body. Festival security then broke up the fight, while those involved were handcuffed and questioned. The fight was reported to both Spanish and British police.

Lydon has released a statement, carefully worded by the way, saying that "After the show, John Rotten and management remained behind to sign autographs, which we did for four solid hours without incident and had a great time talking to other Spanish bands.

"This seems to have sparked jealousy in certain bands.

"The trouble was brought to us, resulting in those causing the trouble being physically removed by festival security.

"It's a shame that the wonderful world of the media is riddled with nonsense like this"

In reference to Okereke, Lydon added: "Grow up and learn to be a true man. When you have achieved as much as I have, come back and talk to me".

All this says that Lydon is a hypocritical cunt. The old bastard seems a little angry at where the music industry is these days and has decided to join in the fun by reforming The Sex Pistols and making just a little more money from their legend. To top it off, he hangs around racist meatheads. And who said he was intelligent and progressive?

Lydon, you're no longer as relevant as you once were and wish to be. Your time is over. You may not agree with the paths that contemporary musicians have chosen. That's fine, your opinion is valid. That doesn't mean that you have the right to so easily excuse an alleged racist attack by those associated with you.
You think that The Sex Pistols are the best thing to come from Britian? You're sadly mistaken, you old twat. Fuck off.

Here are new items on the attack: The Age / The Guardian / The Telegraph / BBC News / Drowned In Sound

Unfortunately, I've never thought of that before. Because he's jumped like that before. But it's today that I actually realized that it's my fault that he jumps like that. I pressure him too much. I'm responding so quickly with an answer to everything that it is just too much to handle. I cannot believe that I figured that out..and now I feel really bad about the things I said and about what I wrote hear. I hope you won't think I'm such a bad person..and neither is my dad. I was just really angry and I didn't think right..

It's my fault now that I think of it.. I shouldn't have rolled my eyes... and I shouldn't have gotten so mad at what he said about comparing me to my friend. Although I don't like that he compared me and I felt he was wrong in saying that he didn't talk back, I should've calmly explained about the whole thing of 'in public'. And then when I got mad about him jumping, like I said, that's my own fault since I pressured him. I realize now that that is how he reacts when I'm so brutal. I'm so sorry.

And now I'm waiting for him to come home. Because he was upset so he went somewhere to get his mind of it like he does sometimes. But I want him to come home now. Because I'm sorry.

2 Chronicles 29; 2 Chronicles 30; 2 Chronicles 31; James 4

Scripture that spoke to me:
James 4:1
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you?

Observation:
What causes fights? Usually someone takes something that belongs to you- or hurts you somehow. This verse gives a totally different reason. The desires that battle within us? Is that where I really want something I know is not of God, so I don't take it, but I get upset when I see someone else with it?

Application:
I know I quench some desires because to fulfill them would go against things that I believe in. Yet, will these things cause problems later? Can I purify my desires somehow so that what I deslre is worthy of having?

Prayer:
Dear Lord, allow me to desire only the things that You would desire for me. Keep the evil desires of my heart away and show me that what You offer is even better! Amen.

My grandmother gets a dvd in the mail from her niece/my father's cousin of some thing. And theres a paper(s) included. So Im fucking minding my own business sitting on the sofa on my laptop. So my dad begins to read the paper to her. I recognize that that is something that he and I have read before, and I tell him, "Oh, you've read that before remember? In the email". He says "yea, dont spoil it for her though." (in a tone as if Im about to say something which i wasnt). So i go back to minding my own fucking business. He continues reading and then stops, turns to me and says "robert..these are our traditions" (you know, in that like explanation voice). "I know dad, youve told me this before" (slight complaining tone, and rolling my eyes).

NOW RIGHT THERE. He gets offended by me rolling my eyes! In the argument later on I tell him that he has no right to have gotten offended because he knew I already heard this!!!! I even told him that when he started reading it and he acknowledged that by saying not to spoil it!!! SO HE HAS NO FUCKING RIGHT TO BE OFFENDED.

So me rolling my eyes gets him offended and he starts talking in that annoying voice I hate. When I know that in any normal argument, he SHOULD be yelling but instead he's using that sickening soft normal, enunciating voice. He knows that I hate that. HE KNOWS IT TICKS ME OFF WHEN HE DOES THAT! YET HE DOES IT ANYWAY! FOR GODS SAKE, WHY DONT YOU SHOW SOME EMPHASIS FOR A POINT THAT YOU WANT TO PROVE OR SOMETHING YOU BELIEVE IN! HAVE PASSION IN WHAT YOU SAY.

(btw, this entire thing sucks because im sure that many people who read this are gonna be like OMG Your so mean to ur parents! or YOu cant say things like that to your parents! Ugh save it, I dont wanna hear it)

Anyway, so now my dad starts talking, like hes upset that I rolled my eyes before (even though he knew I already heard the thing!!). But then...ohh then. He mentions a friend of mine. He says about how he never talks back to his father like I do. And he says he can say this because whenever he sees them in public. WELL GUESS WHAT GENIUS! WHAT ABOUT WHAT YOU DONT SEE! No one SEES me argue with my parents in PUBLIC. Its a two way street! Does he not realize that since no one has seen me and him fight in PUBLIC, then its possible that he may be wrong about saying how he doesnt talk back!!?! And thats also an attack on me because hes like comparing me to my friend. So that sets me off and Im yelling about how he cant compare me to him because of [reasons mentioned before about in public]. Anyway so I get more mad and this progress on and eventually he gets to the topic of how It's not right that we cant have a normal convorsation, and he doesn't understand why we're fightingand BLAH BLAH BLAH. And then Im like, YOU STARTED THIS WHOLE THING! By bringing me into the convorsation with my grandma, by comparing me to my friend..And I yell saying Do you not hear yourself? Do you not realize that what you say can be the wrong thing to say? and then he like totally dismisses what I starts saying things about compassion. And he says that he said that thing about my friend, hoping that I would have some compassion. So Im like wth what you said has nothing to do with compassion, that doesnt even have a connection that doesnt make sense!! And then he jumps to something else by asking if I know how what I say makes him feel (condescendingly). and then he says that "Well, I guess then Im not as smart as you.". HE KEEPS JUMPING TALKING ABOUT THINGS THAT HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH WHAT I JUST SAID! He jumps from one thing to another claiming that 'they're all related!!!!' but even if they are, that makes me stop fighting about the previous thing and i have to start all over about the new topic! and I also waste my time explaining about how he jumped! and his response? HE JUMPS TO SOMETHNG THAT HAS NO FUCKING RELATION TO ANY OF THE WORDS IN MY SENTENCE!

HE DOESN"T SPEND MORE THAN 2 SECONDS ON A SINGLE TOPIC SO NOTHING CAN EVER BE SOLVED! Its so fustrating that it makes me want to bang my head against the wall! I actually did! And then he still is acting like he doesnt understand why theres a problem and making it look like this is my fault and Im just randomly being me and getting mad (in front of my grandma). And when I try to explain to him that hes jumping, he responds to me by talking about somethign ELSE! WHAT THE FUCK!? How is this possible? its unbelievable. So its like Im losing my mind and I chuckle and he says why are you laughing and I say because it's impossible to talk to you! Forget having a normal father-son convorsation, we can't even have a NORMAL ARGUMENT! We cant fight for what we believe in or prove our points if he cant even be consistant about what he's fighting for! And when I try and prove him wrong and that it was his fault, he only talks about how I'm apparently "never wrong" (thats sarcasm btw). BUT I PROVED IT WITH FACTS OF WHAT HE SAID! And then he says he doesnt see how that proves it. And im like OMG WTF!!?! But I just proved you wrong!! PROOF! and then I say 'and about that me never being wrong, well you have yet to prove to me when IM wrong! And he says, well I wouldnt want to prove you wrong [since your someone Icare about].

FINE! BUT IF YOU'RE NOT GONNA PROVE ME WRONG THEN YOU CANT PLAY THAT CARD THAT IM "NEVER WRONG". And do you see how this can drive me crazy? and it makes me look like its my fault. Yet the whole reason im arguing is to solve a dispuit. TO MAKE THINGS BETTER. But how the hell am I suppose to make things better if you don't even realize thats what im doing, and if you keep jumping, not allowing me to finish a thought and causing me to get distracted from trying to prove one point and making me talk about the new topic WHILE explaining that he just JUMPED AGAIN. HE's JUST MAKING MORE PROBLEMS THAT I CANT SOLVE BECAUSE IM TO BUSY TRYING TO SOLVE THE ORIGINAL PROBLEM WHILE EXPLAINING THAT THAT IS WHAT IM TRYING TO DO WHILE TRYING TO YELL AT HIM TO STOP JUMPING WHILE TRYING TO POINT OUT WHEN IT IS THAT HE JUMPS.
ITS LIKE TALKING TO WALL! IT MAKES ME CRAZY. And then when im so upset that i want to give up, its like a smack in my face because then if I stop, then that defeats the purpose of the whole argument and me wasting my time trying to fix something between us. I CANT EXPLAIN A SOLUTION TO SOMEONE WHO DOESNT KNOW THE PROBLEM AND IN DOING SO-CREATES MORE AND DOESNT REALIZE IT! Its so stressing!!

And I said to him, I know you think I have all this hatred for you out of no where, but its only because of what you do!

and finally the one-sided argument draws to a close by my father saying this:

When i was younger, If an argument would ever get this far with my own father, the whole reason for the argument would be put aside because our emotion would kick in (meaning that their love/compassion would make them stop fighting).

Well my response?

No matter how much you love or care about someone or even how much you can hate someone, IT DOESNT SOLVE PROBLEMS!  And Im TRYING to solve the problem, IM TRYING! TO MAKE THINGS BETTER. But no matter how much you could possibly love me, your own personality gets in the way and you start JUMPING!

mydad:but i guess thats just who I am!

me: Then I hate who you are!

dad: But then what do you want me to do?!!?

me: THeres nothing you can do!! And it doesnt matter what we feel about each other! So it wont fix anything no matter how much anyone cares about someone else!

NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU FEEL FOR SOMEONE EMOTIONS CANT DISMISS WHAT HAPPENED OR WHAT WILL HAPPEN ALL OVER AGAIN AND IT DOESNT SOLVE ANY PROBLEMS! IT JUST PUSHES IT UNDER A MAT!

*sigh*

Well that's pretty much everything. If I left anything out, then my away message and other things I feel may give some insight as to anything thats missing:

*sigh* I hate it I hate it so much. And the worst part is that Part of the argument, was trying to fix things. We both want no problems..but it just doesn't work out that way. And I know my dad is hurt but so am I. And we can't try and talk about it because we'll probably end up fighting again because not only do we disagree about certain issues, we also have different ways of communicating. And I have no idea how we're ever going to fix things. We both want to try and not be mad at each other, I know that. But..I don't know how we're going to manage to do that... :'(

The first signs that a female has come into season -or- heat is a thin discharge which will increase in color and discharge rate, after about 10 - 16 days the discharge will become clearer (yellowish). Simultaneously, there is a swelling of the vulva, (the exterior portion of the female’s re productive tract). At this stage the male dog will become extremely interested in the female, if the female is ready she will stand for the dog and mating may occur.

Pup calendar will, hopefully calculate a few of those important dates for breeders who plan their litters. Text book accounts of when a bitches come into season may not always be correct as we are dealing with nature. Some bitches will come into season within the ten days, others can be longer.

I didn't realize my girl dog ( or if you insist on female) was discharging. Grrrhhh... And my dogs are uncontrollable. These 4 males really fight for the female. But always only the strong one gets to the girl. This morning they were a PERTEMPURAN DARAH at home. Omigoshhhhhhh! It was scary. Yanno I had to spray water on them all. When 1 tries to mate with the girl, the other 3 attack him and won't let go. Really! It was like a pertempuran darah, there were blood! Grrhhh!!! Anyway, poor dogs. I need to get more females. I'm getting a puppy soon, from my cousin! YAY! Its a HE tho. But I'm going to NYAM him... NYAM is mm... cut off his thingie in chinese I think. hahaha! Anyway, a baby dog is coming soon! YAY! Hahahaha!

This guy is named James Vaughn. He's a city commisioner of all things in Grand Rapids, MI. Apparently he was having a Menaj with two women when it got out of control. The press is reporting that a woman was assaulted over his house but the real story is two women were fighting over who would go first. Wow!! People really have too much time on their hands....(Read Press Story Here)

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The Game reportedly got into a fight with his cousin over "The Game" paying for his cousin's funeral. "The Game" went on record and says he hated his family more than 50 cent. So his cousin made a video airing out the famous rapper....

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